Lacey's Candy Shop

Ok - tumblr apparently ate my post.

We’ll try again. 

How would you say real life bdsm/kink varies from fantasy bdsm/kink? if you haven’t experienced real life bdsm/kink how do you think it might differ?

The internet has been the best thing ever to happen to BDSM and the WORST thing. As a camgirl, I meet many many people who have never had a real life bdsm experience and have unrealistic expectations of what is possible. I think because fantasies, while fun, are so unfulfilled, its very easy to take them further and further and want more and more extreme things. This is fine, if you keep a firm grip on reality. But its easy to lose that when you’re online. And on cam you guys sometimes forget that I have to be physically capable of doing what you’re into. It might  just be a box on the screen for you, but somewhere in New Mexico a real girl has to actually phyiscally Do whatever the fuck it is you want. I value practicality in my clients :P

There are things that are ‘hot’ as an idea, but in real life  they differ substantially. A good example is faceslapping. Hot as hell in fantasy - it really doesn’t affect me psychologically. In reality, it is a really hot experience but it effects me very differently. 

This gap is ok - as long as you’re aware of it, ready for it and keep a firm grip on reality :) 

day 13: explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/bdsm is to you? why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

Two very simple things.

Power exchange.

Masochism.

Pleasure and Pain get more intense when they are mixed for me, and I like things to be intense.

Having no control is a huge turn on. And I don’t just mean it makes me wet. 

Getting into a a D/s relationship was like putting on glasses for the first time. “OH WOW I CAN SEE”

It was like “oh wow, now my universe makes sense”

BDSM is one of the lenses through which I view my world. 

day 11: what are your views on the ethics of kink?

seriously this is a question? This is like, a subject of a BOOK right here..

SSC = Safe, Sane and Consensual. 

If it fits into this, its ok in my book. 

Actually, that applies to life in general.

Other than that, RESPECT. Of course respect applies to everything in life, but sometimes it gets lost in the power play of Dominance and submission.  This applies to camming too. If you come into my room and you don’t respect me (tipping or not) then I don’t want to work with you. Just because I’m a camgirl, just because I’m submissive, just because I’m a woman and just because I’m not shaped like a barbie does not mean I’m not a human and I don’t deserve your respect. I will give you mine, till you give me a reason to take it away from you.

The other thing to remember with D/s is to RESPECT the vanilla world. While you shouldn’t have any reason to HIDE your true self from the world if you choose not to you should not force it onto the rest of the world non-consensually.

So for example - wearing a rope harness to warlmart under my dress = HOT.

Wearing a rope harness that technically covers all the parts that I could get arrested for, and wandering around the streets in front of children like that… mebe not the most ethical choice. 

That is why when I do my public shows on cam I am SUPER careful not to let anyone see. NOT JUST because I’m scared of getting caught, but also because they are not consenting to see me naked. The one time I flashed a guy on cam, I got his permission BEFORE i did it. It’s not that hard to be considerate of your neighbours… 

Ok back to the kinky fun now we got all serious there?

Ok so im a slacker. 

Day 8 - post a song or lyrics that remind you of kink:

This immediately makes me think kink. Theres many others i can think of - less..subtle.. but this was the first i thought of.

day 4: any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?

Lots. I didn’t realize why I liked it but I always enjoyed it when we played cops and robbers… peter pan… doctor/patient. i was always the victim/helpless one and it always made a little giddy. My older brother once wrapped me in glad wrap & tied me to a lampost in the street and left me there. He was such a little fuck. As I started getting older and experimenting I learned that making out was much hotter if the guy pinned you against the wall first….

day 5: what was your first kinky sexual experience? if you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.

Most of my first kinky experiences happened online - cybersex etc. By the time I got to actually play with kink in my real sex life I already had a good idea of what I liked and what I wanted. I was in a long term committed relationship (the fella I moved to america for) and you know i really don’t remember the first ‘time’ because for me…sex always had a kink component. I think it was the sex we had out in the laundry room which was separate from the house. We were living with his parents, and we fucked on top of the deepfreeze. He held my hands down.

See and now I’m double guessing myself because for me that’s not even that kinky, its just SEX lol. 

DAY TWO - LIST YOUR KINKS

really? 

You really just asked me that.

Oh alright. In NO paticular order.

• Choking
• some medical play
• bondage 
• public exposure
• swinging
• caging/confinement
• collars
• leashes
• puppy play
• stockings
• heels
• daddy dom
• caning
• impact play
• spanking
• bruises
• non-consent roleplay
• corsets
• boots
• belts
• hair pulling
• schoolgirl
• brat play
• wrestling
• begging
• scratching/nails
• humiliation
• nipple torture
• hot wax
• ice play
• sensory depriviation
• biting
• blindfolds
• forced orgasm
• orgasm denial
• OTK spanking
• pain
• exhibitionism
• power exchange
• electric play
• ball gags
• leaving marks
• gagging/choked by cock
• tattoos
• clips/clamps
• ductape
• knife play (without cutting/blood)
• objectification
• pigtails
• slave bells
• dirty talk
• firemen (hehe It counts)
• buttplugs!

ok ok im out.

no really you said list them..thats all i can think of right now HAHAH

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Ya’ll already pretty much know this (or you should!). For me my personal deffinition - submissive is what I am. I am submissive with or without a dominant or owner, it describes my personal preferences and leanings.

Slave is the role I have chosen and accepted in my relationship. Slave is the active role I am in.

As I’ve been talking about lately, I am learning to switch and am enjoying exploring my dominant side online. I most certainly have a sadistic streak which it is fun to indulge. I enjoy topping because it helps me learn to be a better submissive, and because I enjoy serving others and fulfillling a very personal and sexual craving for them. Plus its fucking funny to see men dressed in panties or diapers bending over backwards to fulfill my every whim.

In my personal life however I will always choose submission.

As His slave my role is to be of service and use to him in whatever way I can. I belong to Him, and am cherished by Him. My collar was not something I took lightly. My relationship is not a gimmick for my show. There is much that I keep private so that we can preserve privacy and intimacy between us.

As a paid webcam submissive (or domme) my role is to fulfill your fantasies, explore kink with you all while earning my daily bread. And I love being of service in this way and I’m honored that ya’ll feel that I have done enough for you to tip and take me pvt and partake of my other services.

As far as what parts of BDSM interest me - I can honestly say all parts INTEREST me. There are certain areas I’m not interested in exploring myself, but I love to read about them, and the reasons why people are interested in them. These catagories include needle play, blood play, scat (ok.. its more morbid curiousity), watersports, poly households with multiple slaves/subs, adult-baby play adn many more….

As far as what interests me - there are many many many things but the primary ‘never gets old’ parts that I enjoy are of course, pain and spanking. Bondage. God do i love to be tied up. being controlled in everything i do. Humiliation. Public exposure/exhibitionsm, TPE, service submission and oh did i mention pain?